I have approximately 57 hours left as a resident of San Francisco. I’ve made this beautiful city my home for 5 years now and haven’t quite absorbed all there is to it. With it’s hundreds of restaurants varying from exotic to raw-organic, charming neighborhoods that offer cultural surprises, romantic viewpoints along the bay and peaks, there’s an endless amount of untouched territory that I have not navigated in the 7×7 grid of San Francisco. I can attest to the idea that one may never really come to know this city very well, and perhaps that is what makes this city so beautiful and easy to fall in love with. Every morning’s agenda brings a new flavor to San Francisco, and I’m so grateful for having lived in this city to experience the places I have seen, the feelings that I have felt, the foods that have saturated my taste buds with delight each time, and of course the people–the ones that I have brought into my life and those who have left an impression on mine.
As I sorted through my possessions today, I couldn’t help but take a trip back down memory lane during my life here in San Francisco and recall the moments that helped shape who I am today, my values, and my beliefs. Upon moving to San Francisco, I chose to furnish my whole apartment, buy cookware, decorations, lighting–the whole thing. I used to care about making my home a place that was comfy and stylish at the same time, but after years of accumulating possessions and worrying about where to place my new art piece or paintings, I began to realize how much these things really didn’t matter once I started traveling more and spent more time on building a healthier lifestyle. There’s some quote out there that goes something like, “the things you own end up owning you.” This past year itself, I’ve downsized my possessions to 31 things I own. I’ll talk about how I did that in a later post, but in the meantime, let me get back to reflecting on items and its memories.
I took care of recyclables and goods to donate first, so I sorted through my books (probably the most difficult for me) and picked out which ones I thought I wanted to keep and others that I felt would light someone else’s imagination, along with a box of manuscripts, short-stories, screenplays, essays, and research papers I’ve written. As I sorted through these items, I was impressed with how creative my imagination could be at times and how quick I was to take up a new hobby or research something. I was once an aspiring screenwriter who wrote stories about pain, humanity, truth, and the unspeakable. I wrote research papers about the power of Communism in shaping a culture, people, and economy to prosperity. I wrote short-stories about self-discovery and class-divides, and manuscripts based on science-fiction and historical fiction. I was fascinated by the things people were scared to talk about, and even more fascinated to dig deeper and discover what these things were like, and so I wrote about it. I wrote because these issues and ideas needed to be provoked and thought about. If not read entirely, at least thought about.
I sorted through my clothes and shoes next, and was intrigued by the stories each style told. I went through a hard-partying, every Thursday-Friday-Saturday night clubbing/lounging phase where dresses embroidered with beads and sparkles wrapped my 5’3″ frame and 5-inch heels that screamed “kill your feet” danced away to European-style beats. I partied that way for a good 3 years, and I’m pretty sure that I won’t be partying like that ever. It’s a good experience to go through at least once in your life, and I’m happy that I did when I could. It brought many fun memories, created new relationships, and taught me a lot about what kind of lifestyle I really wanted for myself–and partying was just not it. So I said goodbye to my hundred-dollar dresses and shoes, told them “thank you for making me look good that night”, took away the memories and lessons that it gave me, and moved on to the rest of my wardrobe.
Surprisingly, I don’t own a lot of clothes or shoes like most women would. Instead, I like to mix-and-match, adding accessories to brighten up my outfits. I disposed a lot more clothes, shoes, and accessories today, and I made sure to do it quick with no chance of giving myself a second thought of, “maybe I’ll wear this again in 2 months”, because I almost never do. My advice? If you won’t wear it again in a month, seriously, just get rid of it. I’ve found that it takes too much energy worrying about the latest trend or picking up the hottest it-piece at H&M. My attitude towards this has a lot to do with my experiences travelling with very little. I never over-pack and aim to only have 10 or less articles of clothing packed whenever I travel. I’ve gotten used to this kind of living and especially used to having limited resources available to you. Sometimes, you just have to make do with what you have or get creative and turn that long black skirt into a black mini dress. When I go through my possessions, I think about how much more I am optimizing my happiness by just letting go of things and welcoming a more minimalist lifestyle. It’s very difficult to let go of things, and if you’re a girl, it’s twice as more difficult to let go of clothes and shoes. But like I said earlier, the quicker you let go of something, the less chance you have at giving it a second thought–when it comes to possessions. Believe me, the less you own, the more freedom you feel.
I am now down to a few books, a large luggage full of clothes, a mid-size luggage full of shoes, my guitar, and my computer. These are the things that I own now. Have they created what my life is today? Partially. They’re all pieces that attribute to my tastes, and give me “flavor”, but I say partially because what really created my life and what it is today, are the experiences and places that I’ve seen. All that I sought for, I discovered. All that I was curious about, I learned with feverish devotion. All that I wanted in my life, I designed to benefit my soul, well-being, convictions, and values. As I near the completion of packing up and letting go all the possessions that I’ve accumulated during my 5 years of living in San Francisco, I feel a sense of peace and freedom for having nothing and everything at the same time. I came across a wonderful and inspiring quote that was tweeted today by a fellow traveller: “In the end, no one can take away what you’ve seen or what you’ve experienced”. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that the real possessions and values in our life are the experiences, places, and people we meet. Sure a nice car, brand-name clothes and bags, or a really well decorated home, is great to have, but are those the things you will be most happy with in the creation of your life? Will these possessions and what you own define your life? Or will you choose to define your life by the experiences that you seek? The choice is ultimately yours to make.
Five years in this beautiful city has given me enough to move on and seek out new horizons, new challenges, people, and new experiences. So here I am in my last 57 hours with my 5 possessions and a starving hunger for more adventure, knowledge, love, compassion, moments, and happiness. Life is what you create of it. You are the only person that can design the way you want your life to be, so make it good and make it a story that can inspire others to do the same.
Yours,
Noemi